The Secret to Loving Yourself
- Nov 18, 2018
- 5 min read
Updated: Dec 15
When you love yourself you glow from the inside. You attract people who love, respect, and appreciate your energy. Everything starts with how you feel about yourself.
To love thyself is to know thyself. And when you love yourself is when you can truly appreciate and love the differences and values that you and others offer.
Have you ever heard advice something like this, “well if you loved yourself more…” but then the cliffhanger comes when we're left wondering how to go about achieving this? While your relationship with yourself is the most important connection in your life, it’s easy to forget about nurturing it.
I get it, I truly do. Life moves so fast nowadays, but that still is no excuse to neglect yourself or deprive yourself of love. Self-love and compassion are too important to neglect because they shape your experiences and relationships with others.
Protect your health and well-being by making positive changes in the way you think about and treat yourself. The goal here is for you to value yourself. I want you to believe in yourself because you are already a gifted individual. Everything that you need to live a life you will enjoy telling your grandchildren already exists within you. But you must first love yourself to unlock what I like to call your “super powers”. These "superpowers" unleash more confidence, and being confident is a key to life. Don't be afraid to BeU.
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Changing the Way You Think about Yourself
Maybe you’re hard on yourself or you’re so busy with external obligations that you rarely consider your personal priorities. Looking inward could help you to value yourself more.
These strategies will help you to think more highly of yourself:
1. Accept yourself. Know that you are worthy of love and respect just the way you are at this moment. Embrace yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.
2. Clarify your purpose. Invent your own definition of success. Ask yourself what a meaningful life means to you, even if that answer changes over time.
3. Talk yourself up. How do you speak to yourself? Choose words that are encouraging and uplifting. Use your internal dialogue to build your confidence and manage your emotions.
4. Offer forgiveness. Let go of the past so that you can move on. Take any decisions that you regret and turn them into opportunities to learn. Make amends where possible and resolve to handle things more constructively in the future.
5. Avoid comparisons. Facebook didn’t invent social comparisons, but social media has increased the potential for envy and inferiority complexes. Try competing with your last performance instead of living up to someone else’s standards. You’ll accomplish more if you dare to be yourself.
6. Think positive. Looking on the bright side and being able to laugh at yourself makes you even more loveable. It also helps you to manage stress and deal with difficult circumstances.
Changing the Way You Treat Yourself
Do your actions match your beliefs? You might say you love yourself, but your actions could be sending a different message.
Try these techniques to treat yourself kindlier:
1. Practice self-care. Develop habits that keep your mind and body fit and strong. Go to bed early and exercise each day. Eat a balanced diet and watch your weight.
2. Pick friends wisely. Surround yourself with family and friends who encourage and support you. Cultivate close relationships with others who share your goals. Engage in deep conversations where you can share your feelings and receive validation.
3. Pursue your passions. Identify the activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Block out time each day for something you love, whether it’s a task related to your job or something you do in your leisure time.
4. Set goals. Give yourself something to strive for. Working towards realistic and challenging goals builds your confidence as you add to your achievements.
5. Maintain boundaries. Know your limits so you can define what behavior you consider acceptable. That may include physical boundaries such as needing your own space and psychological boundaries such as being entitled to your own feelings and opinions.
6. Advocate for yourself. Once you understand your needs, you can communicate them to others. You’ll grow more skillful as you practice being direct and tactful in letting someone know if they cross your boundaries.
7. Seek support. Ask for what you need. Let others know specifically what they can do, whether you’re looking for practical assistance like pitching in with housework or just a friendly ear to listen while you sort out your feelings.
Loving yourself can help you to enjoy more happiness, overcome challenges, and build healthier relationships with others. Make it a habit to treat yourself with kindness and respect and watch your life blossom.
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Meet The Author
Precious Dillard is the owner of BeU Life Coaching & Branding, a business dedicated to helping creative entrepreneurs build authentic, purpose-driven brands from the inside out. With a background in brand strategy, content creation, and creative thinking, Precious is a forward-thinking visionary who’s passionate about guiding entrepreneurs to brand clarity and growth.
In addition to her expertise in branding, Precious holds a bachelor’s degree in Biological Health Science and is a certified Family and Business Mediation and Entrepreneurship professional. As a Navy veteran with experience as an Aviation Electronics and Calibration Technician, Precious brings a disciplined, results-oriented approach to her work.
At BeU, Precious helps entrepreneurs define their unique brand identity, position their businesses for success, and connect with their ideal audiences in authentic ways. With a mission to empower creative minds to stay true to their purpose, she blends strategic direction, personal development, and practical execution to create brands that resonate.
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Disclaimer:
I am not a licensed psychologist or specialist healthcare professional. My services do not replace the care of psychologists or other mental healthcare professionals. Please note that I can’t take any responsibility for the results of your actions, and any harm or damage you suffer as a result of the use, or non-use, of the information available at www.beulifecoaching.com. Please use judgment and conduct due diligence before taking any action or implementing any plan or practice suggested or recommended on this website and any supplemental material provided. Please note that I don’t make any guarantees about the results of the information applied on this website. I share educational and informational resources that are intended to help you succeed in personal growth and development. You nevertheless need to know that your ultimate success or failure will be the result of your own efforts, your particular situation, and innumerable other circumstances beyond my knowledge and control.
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